He finally met a beautiful, compatible women and this was all thanks to plentyoffish.com. But after a month of dating, John realised she was not quite the perfect picture he had first met online.
Internet dating is advertised on a daily basis, with websites such as match.com, flirtbox.co.uk, and eharmony.com. Although the idea is sweet and they can be successful, there is the question of, what if the person you finally meet is not the character they portray online. This was John's problem.
The 26 year-old had come out of a long term relationship which didn't end too well, so he thought he'd have a go at internet dating. Not only would it take his mind off his ex but it could also mean meeting the love of his life.
The story begins when he starts chatting to a girl called Mandy. Mandy is a sweet, shy woman and works locally to where John lives. Things could not be any better. She was also a little older than John but he 'liked that' because it meant she was willing to have a serious relationship.
After speaking for a while online, the couple decide to meet after work one day. They got on great and everything seemed so perfect!
John decided after a couple of weeks that he would like to make it official with Mandy and started calling her his 'girlfriend'.
"It was going so well and I enjoyed spending time with her. Although, after about a month of dating I then started to have my doubts. She wanted to see me everyday, and I felt like I was ditching my friends.
"Mandy started to freak out at me, telling me I was hiding stuff when I wasn't. She even had dreams that I'd cheated on her with work colleagues. She thought they were real and got upset about them."
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Things became too straining for John and he wondered if he could cope with such an emotional woman.
"Eventually, Mandy started to freak me out a bit too much, so I told her I needed a few days to think our relationship over".
That night John went to the pub with a friend and got a call off his housemate. She explained that somehow, Mandy was in his house, in his bedroom! And she could hear her talking to herself. So John gave her a call and told her to get out, but 'she wasn't having any of it!'
"In the end my housemate managed to get rid. When I get home from the pub, she turns up at my house AGAIN. We argue a lot, and she cries a lot and refuses to leave. After eventually getting her out my house for the second time, she then does a fake fall down the stairs to my front door as I'm shutting my other door behind me.
"Instead of being in pain or going to the hospital she used it to garner sympathy off my neighbour who was unaware of the situation".
After the incident, Mandy starts harassing John with text messages, which then lead to her explaining she is carrying a baby and that she had found out she was pregnant that day.
"I told her I did not believe her, as anyone would in my situation. She'd turned into a psycho in a matter of hours and we had always used protection. However, she did say she'd been to the doctors and insisted she was pregnant which started putting doubts in my mind. It was very straining".
Stressed about the situation, John told Mandy he would contribute to looking after a child, if it existed. Mandy spitefully then tells him she wants 'nothing' from him, and claims he has treated her badly.
"After that I don't hear from her. BUT...then a woman adds me on Facebook. At first she seems nice and harmless. We exchanged numbers, but then the harassment started. She would not leave me alone. I often wondered if it was Mandy but obviously I could never prove it seeming as I'd never met her".
As time went on, more and more random Facebook adds were coming John's way. He was being bombarded with constant text messaging, emails on Facebook and phone calls.
"I looked at the IP address from all these various people as I was suspicious, and surprise surprise, they were all from the same computer. It was definitely Mandy".
The last straw for John was when Mandy rung his head office of the company he worked in and told them he had been abusing her. She rang them several times and in the end the police had to be called.
John admits the whole situation has not put him off internet dating.
"I did not see the internet as the cause of my terrible story. Obviously I just met someone who was very emotionally unstable, which could happen in any circumstance. I now have a new
girlfriend who I met online and I'm very happy with her".
Sadly, although it has not put him off internet dating, it has made John a different person;
"I'm now so skeptical about new partners. Plus, I have the fear that one day, Mandy might come back into my life, or that she is still watching me and I'm just unaware. Friends have told me they see her near my house, even though she has no business around that area, so it does make me nervous.
"I just have to hope and pray that this really is the end of the harassment I've suffered".
The names John and Mandy are fake names as protection of those mentioned.
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